I don't celebrate Father's Day.
I choose to revel in the fact of my currently fatherless existence. For years I was told to respect a being unworthy of the action. I was told to love a being who refused to love himself or anyone else. The day he died was a day I celebrated yet another measure of freedom.
To say I didn't get along with my father would be inaccurate. I got along fine with him and every single bit of it was a lie to have a quiet time. He was despicable. He was unworthy to be venerated as a "father".
We need a not-father's day. I had good male role models -sort of, at a distance. (Good thing I'm just a female, eh? REAL damage might have been done!) There were men who showed me that good men exist. Or at least that was their public face. Just like my dads!
Yeah, I got issues.
I actually do believe that good men, good father's exist. I do.
I just haven't seen a whole lot of proof.
I choose to revel in the fact of my currently fatherless existence. For years I was told to respect a being unworthy of the action. I was told to love a being who refused to love himself or anyone else. The day he died was a day I celebrated yet another measure of freedom.
To say I didn't get along with my father would be inaccurate. I got along fine with him and every single bit of it was a lie to have a quiet time. He was despicable. He was unworthy to be venerated as a "father".
We need a not-father's day. I had good male role models -sort of, at a distance. (Good thing I'm just a female, eh? REAL damage might have been done!) There were men who showed me that good men exist. Or at least that was their public face. Just like my dads!
Yeah, I got issues.
I actually do believe that good men, good father's exist. I do.
I just haven't seen a whole lot of proof.
